How do relationship patterns cause problems and symptoms?
Our inner patterns influence our outer relationships. Often a partnership will start out very well, but after several months familiar conflicts begin to turn up. Due to subtle pressures on our part – because we tend to project our inner patterns – our partner even begins to behave in the pattern we know so well. “I am not your mother!” “Well then quit acting like her!” This process goes both ways, of course. Relationship problems can become extremely difficult to decipher. The inner patterns influence not only relationships to other people, but also to the inanimate world, as well as to events. Imagine someone suffering from claustrophobic anxiety in an elevator. This might be due to an inner relationship pattern he has with a rather nasty, all-encompassing and suffocating persecutor. The cupboard door hit your head as you stood up? “Bad cupboard!” The cupboard, of course, is not “bad,” but it is perhaps the way you feel at that moment. That is a perfectly normal reaction. With an ingr
