How do recover from the angry feeling?
From your specific question I infer you are in the midst of feeling very angry and are at least somewhat disabled or impacted by the feeling. Anger is different for different people and all the experts will say its a normal emotion in certain situations. It becomes a problem when it starts to impact your life and controls you. Its not an efficient emotion either. Suppressing anger though is bad as well since it can redirect into your body.
As for the recovery from an angry feeling or anger then here are some steps:
- Somehow get to a place where you can “think” about the anger. Take a deep breath and get control of yourself. You need some technique to break out of the anger or rage you are in.
- You need to move towards some analysis and understanding of the anger. Find a way to “look” at the anger externally like it was someone else’s anger. One technique is to act like a professional and write down the the details. What, who, where, when, how. (what happened? who did it? where did it happen? when did it happen? how did it happen?)
- Write out your opinions on what happened and what did it cost you.
- Find some way to accept it.
There are other physical techniques you can use as well. Taking a deep breath, imagining the anger fading away and realizing it has no power over you.
We spend a TON of energy holding onto the past and in reality the past is really just what we “think” happened. Sometimes anger is justified and other times its misguided. The key is really just to release the anger and move on.
