How Do Most Men Respond to Infidelity in Marriage?
“Sometimes men will be jealous, sometimes they will be competitive, sometimes they will have a lot of self-recrimination,” she continues, listing three classic responses. “But sometimes it will be a huge wake-up call.” Most men would probably prefer to be woken up in a different fashion (a clock radio is nice), but there’s the rub: Sometimes it takes a shock to the system to get a man’s attention. “If, God forbid, you come home and find your wife in bed with another man, and you are in a stable, gratifying marriage, you need to talk about what happened openly and honestly,” says Steven Nock, a professor of sociology at the University of Virginia and the author of Marriage in Men’s Lives. “If you can actually discuss what is going on and why it happened, those couples seem to survive. But that presumes a lot.” It presumes, first off, that the husband will keep a cool head. Extreme anger must be dealt with in counseling, which is also the best way to expel the stubborn images Epstein say
