How do I tell the difference between someone who is really being bullied and someone whos claiming bullying to hide their poor performance?
The person who is being bullied will have, or quickly be able to construct, a fat folder of evidence, often covering several months, maybe years. They will report a stream of bullying behaviours, especially nit-picking, fault-finding and constant criticism and allegations, all of which lack substantive and quantifiable evidence, for they are just the bully’s opinion. It’s the patterns, the regularity and the number of incidents which reveal bullying. The person who is making a spurious claim might produce half a dozen sheets of paper, if that.
