How do I tell my fiancee we can leave our future children alone with his dad?
I’m sorry you are going through this, but since you don’t have children of your own yet, I feel it’s a premature conversation. I understand your fears and his denial. When you and your future husband have children, I’m sure your fiance will feel the same way you do. Your husband will want to protect your children, just as much as you will. If the time should come, when you have children and he still feels the same, only then would I voice how strongly you feel about this. I would almost guarantee your husband won’t be in denial when it comes down to his own children. Even if he should never admit that he believes what happened, he will never put his children in harms way.
It’s good to talk about all these things now before you are married and before you have children, so your fiance knows where you stand. Tell him you will not leave your child with ANYONE (including family members) who you do not completely trust. But, after this is done I would let it go, until after the hearing and/or after you become pregnant. (You may not even have to face the situation if he is convicted and goes to jail). Hopefully, you and your fiance will learn more once the facts come out at the hearing. (I do not think the child is making up the molestation because children usually are afraid of the humiliation involved). Once you have children of your own, I am assuming your fiance will get the paternal feeling on his own and want to protect his child from any possible harm (including his father). To know of any alleged molestation and still be willing to take the risk of exposing any child to possible harm would be extreme negligence and child endangerment. When you become p
