How do I cope with inappropriate comments from friends and family such as “just relax, everything will be fine”?
People who have not had your experiences can’t understand the fear that you have for the safe delivery and health of your baby. Try to ignore their unthinking comments and rely instead on the support of those who do understand what you’ve been through (like StorkNet!). You might also gently remind them that given your history, you’re very sensitive to what could happen and such comments are not helpful. Explain what would be helpful for you. There is a tendency for many to believe that once a person becomes pregnant after infertility or loss, everything that happened previously is erased or should be forgotten. Reminding others that this isn’t the case may make them understand your fears better. If this doesn’t help, you may have to distance yourself somewhat from those who are not supportive. Take care of YOU. Q.
How do I cope with inappropriate comments from friends and family such as “just relax, everything will be fine”?