How do I approach my fiancee about the subject she may have Approach Avoidance Syndrome?
Maybe you should stop being an armchair psychiatrist. Seriously, that’s what I’d recommend. Perhaps your fiancee has this ‘disorder’ and perhaps not. What difference does it make? Maybe she just doesn’t want to get married yet, or she doesn’t want to get married to YOU and she just isn’t ready to say so. If you truly feel that there may be a MEDICAL reason for her behavior, then tell her so. Say, “Honey, I’m worried that you haven’t seemed yourself lately. Perhaps it would be a good idea for you to have a check-up. Shall I call Dr. Lugosi’s office and make an appointment for you?” If she agrees, then leave it up to her doctor to make a diagnosis. If she disagrees, then you can either drop the matter and take your fiancee at face value; trusting her to say what she means and mean what she says OR you can break the engagement and move forward without her. In other words, YOU are in charge of what YOU choose to do. You are NOT in charge of what SHE chooses to do, and that includes diagnos
