How do I address deal breaker issues in a relationship?
This is a big one. But on the plus side, you should give yourself a lot of credit for being honest with yourself. It’s easy to make big and small lies to oneself in order to iron over problems in a relationship. Imagine how awful you would feel married, 10 years down the line, with a couple of kids in the mix. You’re really doing something brave, noble and hugely important in breaking this off. You’re also being far more loving to him, he deserves the chance of being with someone who is more compatible. It doesn’t matter who is wrong or right – reasons for break ups are often silly and in fact are functions of more latent feelings of not being able to grow, learn and share with someone, or even, quite simply of being able to reproduce with them. I know you say that this can’t be done over the phone, but if I were you, I would not share Christmas and his birthday with him. Perhaps you can stomach it, but I just feel like you’ll end up having contempt for him and ruining these occasions
