How Do I A Maintain A Long Term Secret Lover From My Wife?
fortunately for you and your wife your “secret” lover will almost definately become tired of playing second fiddle and will blow you out of the water herself, then you won’t have to worry about keeping them both by your selfish side, because they will both drop you like a bad habit…maybe they will hook up with each other.
What was supposed to happen when you married your wife was that you made the shift from Mom and Dad being most important to your wife being the most important, and that you made a permanent commitment to have only her as long as you are both still alive. Sounds like what’s happening right now is something a little different… And there is a reason it’s supposed to be the way I describe. Otherwise you get third parties intruding on your relationship if you stay together, and if you don’t, if you go off with someone else, then you leave a bit of yourself with your wife and vice versa. And this, without your wife’s knowing about it. It smacks of secretly stealing from your wife and running off with her goods. Not to mention that as things stand now, your secret lover will always be left wondering whether you don’t have someone else that even she doesn’t know about… I know this is not pleasant reading, but it really will be better for all concerned if you make the appropriate changes to
Tom…sooner or later you are going to slip up and get caught. At some point your lover may get mad at you, or grow tired of “playing second fiddle” all of the time, and decide to call your wife and tell her what has been going on…or your wife will figure it out when you do something stupid to slip up… or else you will be seen somewhere with your lover, by a mutual friend who will then tell your wife. Believe me…you are going to get caught, and if that happens you may lose them both. An affair is just not as exciting once it is out in the open and everyone knows about it. You lover may wind up losing interest if that happens, because half the fun of cheating is the fact that it is illicit. Your wife will leave you because she doesn’t trust you anymore, and because you have hurt and embarassed her. You seem to want to have your cake and eat it too. Do yourself a favor, make a choice and then stick to it…better to have one dessert than none at all.
Please choose only one. It is really unfair to your wife and if you have kids. I fell in love with a married guy before but it was me who decided to broke up with him because I am a girl also and I know the feeling when one cheated on you. It really hurts. I love him very much but I don’t have the right to fight for him… he could never be mine. He has beautiful kids and a good wife. I used my mind more than my heart… and I know i did the right thing. Right now, I am happy with my bf and we are soon to be married.
