How come Im always subservient to my parents at 30 & struggle to articulate & assert myself ?
I’m in a very similar situation! I also have some diagnoses. My parents, in part, treat me like a child because of my various diagnoses. This makes it more difficult to escape the behaviors and responses that I feel trapped in. My mom was like your dad– controlling, etc. If I wasn’t making her happy, then she was rejecting of me, and I was a bad boy. Those kind of things are burned in deep. They don’t treat me like an adult because I’m like a hurt little boy, but then I’m like a hurt little boy because they don’t treat me like an adult– it’s a circle, and very difficult to break. I guess if I’m stuck like you, then I’m not the best person to advise you? Sometimes I assert myself with them, but they think it’s my mental illness rising up. It’s very frustrating. I know that they “love” me, in whatever capacity they can, and I love them, but… I often wonder how things will change if they pass away before I do… I’ll be like the bad little boy who’s free or something. I don’t know wha
