How can you regain attraction and chemistry after 14 years together?
First, praise for sticking in there, many lasses would just pack-up. You obviously love this bloke. Write down the things that caught your eye and mind when you first met. All of it. Don’t whinge or compare simply state the things he has that make you wet. Then explain very, very vulnerably that the reason why you have lost weight and had surgery was as a direct fear of losing him. Tell him you dread the feeling of ever losing him as he is your soul mate. Leave that letter in a place he is guaranteed to find. When he approaches you about this deliberatetly low-key approach let him blow off the most possible feelings of self-doubt that probably have fueled his current sloth. Allow him to show anger, sarcasm etc as it is a veneer for his fear. Bite your lip, you seek his opening up and its stale air. He will be feeling like he can’t begin to measure up so why bother at all. Your candid letter will allow him the power to believe he still “has it”. From then, subtley start to D.J. activiti
