How can one learn the practice of karezza (bonding-based sex)?
Here is an overview of the approach we used. Our goal was to gently leave the natural cycle of highs and lows that follows sexual satiety behind, but you can also use it to compare karezza, or bonding-based sex, with conventional, fertilization-driven sex. The best way to see your biological programming at work is to proceed extremely slowly and consciously for three weeks…with no driven sexual behavior, but lots of affectionate, selfless, physical contact with each other. Then, to compare your results with conventional sex, go back to having orgasm, and see if you notice any difference in your state of mind (or that of your partner) over the next two weeks. If you don’t stick with the alternative for at least three weeks, the process becomes a lot like playing “Chutes and Ladders.” The more “chutes” you encounter (in the form of conventional orgasms), the more frustrated you will become with the whole concept of bonding-based sex. This occurs because each orgasm can cause you to los
