How can I stop being such a negative, nagging wife?
First, you need to address the underlying issues that are the fuel for your nagging. If you feel that you’re contributing much more to the relationship than your husband, work with him to fix that (with the help of a counselor if necessary). If you still have a lot of resentment from his cheating, it will slowly fade with time, but simply talking through it with a therapist or counselor may help with that process. Second, you’ll need to work on controlling the urge to nag. It’ll be a struggle at first, but should eventually get easier over time. I’m a very critical person, and what I’ve done when my wife annoys or frustrates me is to resist the initial urge to blurt out that frustration and to think about what I really want to say. I’m not always successful, but most of the time, I conclude that I’m being over-sensitive and just keep my mouth shut. The rest of the time, I figure out what I need to say that will allow us to talk about it rationally rather than start a fight or create re
