How Can I Stay In a Sexless Relationship Without Feeling Resentful?
Dear Dategirl, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over six months, and it’s been wonderful. We get along great, have fun, and are committed. Although we’ve been sexually active for most of the relationship, he recently decided that he’s uncomfortable with vaginal intercourse. He says he’s been thinking about abortion issues and has concluded with some very (in my opinion) orthodox views. Furthermore, he’s decided that the statistics for protected sex (we always use a condom) are not good enough and he wants to take no risks. When I pressed him harder for information, it came out that he always assumed on the off chance we do get pregnant, we could manage, but recently with me planning to leave the country (in roughly three months time) he’s been forced to realize that I am unready/unwilling to bear a child (hence our fastidious use of condoms). I flat out told him I will not be having children until I am ready, and while abortion is not my ideal first choice, in a rare/emergency
