How can I protect my child(ren) during a divorce?
Neither parent should discuss the custody case with a child, nor allow any child to review legal documents. There should be no discussions beginning with “guess what [your dad/mom] did now….” or an interrogation of the child (such as what he or she did while visiting the other parent) unless there is a compelling reason, such as danger to the child. Do not use your child to convey messages or documents to the other party. Do not allow a child to dictate the visitation schedule, although of course the child s wishes can be considered and discussed by parents. Do not argue with your child s other parent in the presence or hearing of the child. You should, however, listen carefully to your child s concerns and make notes and tell us about any unsolicited comments (please do not pump your child for information) that you believe may be relevant. A diary-type calendar is a great idea to document all important events. Communications between parents should be in writing. Email works well as
