How can I meet girls without going out drinking round the bars and clubs every weekend?
A great goal for anyone your age is to build a life worth living. Now that you are thinking straight, which is a great accomplishment, try referrals. Find the people you admire the most and have a serious discussion with them. They will be excited about your new maturity and will want to help you. Within a short period, I would bet you will meet some very nice ladies who are interested in someone who has finally grown up. Most of your right thinking friends all know young women who are looking for a stable, reliable, kind, generous, caring man. They are frustrated because they can’t find them. So your friends will be excited to know they can introduce you without feeling ashamed or embarassed by what they may have concluded about your earlier values and behaviors. So you need to bring them up to speed and tell them of your reformation. They will be excited for you and will want to help you. I have noticed it takes guys a few years to realize there is more to life than barflys. They oft
This will put you in a category where certain folks will not want to be around you because you are “one of them.” And you don’t want those “certain folks” around you anyway. This is an easy way to avoid many mistaken hook-ups. 2) Volunteer your services (serve food to the homeless, teach ESL to the immigrants, etc.) or attend religious services (while I prefer Jesus Christ for the truth, I won’t tell you to go to church to meet women as that is unfair to you as well as them.) 3) You could simply ask a complete stranger if she’d like to have dinner with you–and only dinner, your treat. If she says no, what of it? Ask someone else. This third idea is under the “experimental” category, with no guarantees on results because it’s an experiment and we haven’t run it enough times to know what’ll happen.
When my son goes out I say: “Make sure you really pick well”. When you look at a girl, ask yourself……”Can she be the mother of my children?” I’m done meeting the randoms girls he brought home, wondering…”Is this the one?” being relieved that it was not. He is 32 years old, free and loving it after ending 2 long term relationships that, as he says, “sucked the life out of him”! He is a musician and has plenty of opportunities to meet the girls but he says not too many to bring home to Mom quality! Opportunity to meet girls depends on your contacts. My daughter has a list of girl friends that she will introduce to her brother when he is “ready” for serious commitment. She said she does not want to waste the opportunity. Some guys decided to take cooking classes in college because the girls do that, too. Each life stage presents different opportunities. Take a course at night. Join a singles club or a gym. Ask friends that have sisters to introduce you to their friends. Some adult f
If you don’t attend a church, a volunteer organization might be a good way to get into something more constructive than hanging out in bars or clubs. Sometimes a friend of mine will meet girls in his hobbies, which include camping, hiking, and whitewater boating. If you have a hobby you are enthusiastic about, that’s a good place to meet someone who shares your interests. Attending concerts if you live near a city where you have that option. I met my husband when I was traveling to visit a mutual friend in Wyoming. She introduced me to him when she ran into him in the parking lot of the post office (a very small town.) The relationship resulted in a geographic move, but 24 years later, I can say it was worth it. Good luck!
