How can I keep disagreements between me and my husband from turning into adult temper tantrums?
I wish I could help you, but ARGH – what you’re describing is what sooo many married couples go through! My husband and I included. We don’t argue very often, but when we do, it quickly degenerates from a lucid, intelligent difference of opinion to a slanging match. It doesn’t do either of us any good, and we both feel rotten to the core about it afterwards. I guess my advice is to try hard not to let it get that far. Stay calm, stay on-topic, and DO NOT bring up the past, or irritating little habits that he might have. When the argument reaches that point, it’s usually too late to turn back – so try not to let it. It means a LOT of tongue-biting! Having said all this…. I know in my heart it’s what I need to do too, but I still get caught up in the anger and indignance of the moment.
