How can i help my friend overcome what she thinks is depression and anorexia?
Her parents are likely to have noticed her weight and that she’s not been eating so perhaps they already have a suspicion something’s wrong. Let your friend know that you are there for her when she’s ready to talk and that you care about her. Until she’s ready to speak then pushing her will most likely just make her back away. But if she knows you’re there for her when she’s ready she might come to you. Try encourage her to speak to someone at the school, if you think things are getting worse you can approach a teacher at school and express your concerns and they will be able to advise you on what you can do to help your friend and they may look into it too. They can’t discuss your friend’s case with you but they can discuss with your how you deal with it and what you can do.
You will learn quickly that as a councillor or a lay person that we cannot help those who will not help themselves and this is a fact of life. Your friend thinks she has no problem so her wall is up and so is her denial system. Since she is going to get sicker from not eating and replenishing the calories she is putting out, I would however make one last effort to try and help her (we never give up on anyone, regardless) become aware of what she is doing to herself. You and her friends along with her parents can make a house call and do an intervention with her. Make very sure you have your facts straight first though as this could back fire and it may anyway. Get some info, talk to her parents and see what they have to say and go for it. You have nothing to lose and she has everything to gain. I wish you much luck and certainly hope this will work out for her…… P.S. Always keep sentences in the “I” form when you are talking with her or anyone really. If you want any extra info, yo
Well first of and foremost, you have to step yourself out of the situation. I mean, you are [her] friend and you are more concerned and worried about being a good friend to her than actually being what she NEEDS you to be which is support. If you’re soft with her then obviously she will be hard with you but if you take it seriously and don’t allow her to try to pretend like things are okay then she will eventually listen to her. You need to have a private and serious conversation with her. You can start by saying something like: “You are not okay and things won’t be okay because this situation is not right. You are endangering your health and I love you so much as a friend that I don’t want to lost you and especially not this way so you need to realize that you are not only hurting yourself but you are affecting and hurting those around you whom love you. I’m here to support you. Honestly, if you appeared bad I would tell you. I’m genuinely telling you that this is unhealthy and it can
