How can I help a friend who is experiencing dating violence?
Most importantly, believe your friend. Victims need to know they will not be doubted or blamed for the abuse. Don’t judge or criticize. Tell her that the dating violence won’t get better by itself. Recommend that she get the help of a trusted adult, and encourage her to get out of the relationship. Suggest options. Often a victim of abuse will feel there are no choices. Let her be in control of the planning and decision-making, including who knows about the dating violence. Ask her if there is anything you can do, but know that you do not have the power to fix everything. Afterwards, take care of yourself. Hearing about dating violence can be difficult and upsetting. It is normal to feel angry, but confronting the abuser is not going to make the situation better. Discuss your feelings with a crisis line or school counselor.
