How can I become more assertive and respected?
This is a tricky one. Some people are cut out to lead, some aren’t. It is something that can be learnt. I had an experience where I was promoted within my existing team to a senior role and I blew it. I started being bossy and acting differently and my new team didn’t take to it. Looking back my team members already respected me before I was promoted and they used to come to me for help and advice all the time – and all I needed to do was build on that – but I didn’t and went over the top. You may have lost their respect already but if not that my advice would be to treat them with the respect you expect and be a “leader” not a “boss”. You have your role/responsibilities that you have to do, i.e. chase people up, hit targets, etc. Sit your team down and explain what you have to do and then ask them for progress, etc. Then be there for them when they need help/advice/direction. To be honest you should ask for some training from your manager, unless of course you told a few white lies at
Hi, No, it is not too late to turn this around. You can have what you desire. + First of all, change your thoughts. Do not continue to feel that you are failing. And do not think that you are not being listened to or respected (even if the signs are there). Start seeing yourself as a competent and respected leader. If the receptionist makes fun of you, be competent enough to hold a private meeting with her to tell her that you would appreciate it if she discontinued such negative behaviour. Stress that you are all on a team and should be building up each other. + Next: the 5 P’s Be prepared, prompt, proactive, positive and patient with others. Be an encourager. Be team-oriented; work at being united, work for benefits for the team and work at building high morale in your organization. + Avoid thoughts and giving threats regarding the sacking other if there are no obvious breach in the guidelines for dismissal. Compliment others and express appreciation for their input and effort (Note:
