How can I become a better kisser?
[I’m using “he” for a third person here because it’s the standard English default–add the “s” mentally if you prefer kissing girls.] As jenniferprofitt said, practice! That’s no joke. As with most disciplines, the best way to learn is to find someone who’s good at it and get him to teach you. As with all things sensual, pay as much attention to technique as you can (without getting distracted from the kiss itself). Think about how the other person uses his tongue, what parts of your mouth he gives attention to, and whether he pauses periodically or just keep going. The next best thing to practicing with one good kisser (or possibly as good) is to kiss a lot of different people and see what works or doesn’t work. It’s not slutty when it’s in the name of science! ; ) Failing that, here are some general tips: – Keep lip moisture to a medium. If your lips are dry, lick them. (If his lips are dry, lick them too, if he’s patient enough to let you.) If yours are too wet, take a minute to kis
I assume from the question that someone has complained about his or her kissing. If so, I would suggest getting feedback. It’s not easy for someone to express what’s good or bad about the kisses they’re getting. Other than “too rough” or “too limp” you may not get much to go on. It helps if you really enjoy kissing. It’s one of the great experiences that life has to offer. You are enveloped in the presence of your lover, her scent, her breath, her warmth, her taste, the softness of her mouth and tongue. It could be more intimate than sex because there is no goal in kissing. It’s pure pleasure. In order to lose yourself in kissing you have to relax. It’s like floating on your back. If you can relax and drift in a dreamlike state, floating is very pleasurable. If you are anxious about sinking it’s no fun. The trick is to be fully present in the moment and lose yourself. Think about nothing except how lucky you are to be in the presence of your lover, sharing such amazing pleasure. If you
I agree, practice make perfect. You must learn your kissing partner as well. Great kissing is all about the moment. Learn to heighten the moment with emotion and anticipation and good kissing will naturally follow. Here’s a good story about how better kissing improved this person’s relationship dramatically and how they did it. Kissing can really bring two people closer together.
