How can a person grieve without feeling overwhelmed?
It is important to actively integrate and resolve your grief, not just passively experience your reactions to it. Grief carries us until we carry it. The first step is to find and establish a sanctuary, whether in your home or in nature, a quiet place to grieve where you will not be interrupted. You may want to set up an altar where you can place pictures of your parent, special objects, candles, flowers. In your sanctuary, you have the opportunity to work with the intense forces and emotions aroused in grief. It is the womb in which you are cradled in your grief. Using your sanctuary, give 100% to your grieving for a period of time each day– starting with 10 minutes and moving up to an hour. There are many possibilities: writing, drawing, crying, listening to music, praying, meditating, or just sitting and being open to whatever comes up. Find a rhythm of entering the grief for a period of time each day and then letting it go. As you emerge from the sanctuary, take a walk, call a fri
