Fr Michael, what are some of the particular characteristics of this age group that parents and educators need to bear in mind?
Well, one of the first and most important points is to recognize that they are no longer kids. Up to age 12, they are still kids. But from 13 onward, puberty kicks in and there is a lot more sensitivity; they are more easily irritated and they want to be treated like a teen, not like a kid. At this age, teenage boys are discovering their identities and going through a lot of turmoil. It’s a very sensitive time, and we need to pray for them and dedicate time to them, show personal interest, try to understand what they’re thinking. Q: How can a parent find the balance between being clear, firm, and yet flexible? Explain to your son in advance: these are the guidelines and these are the consequences. The consequences must be reasonable. Every parent has an atomic bomb he or she can pull out (taking away the internet, the cell phone, or the driver’s license, or keeping their bedroom door open), but everything needs to be done in a fair way, in due proportion. You can’t surprise a kid with
