Does the stress of remembering hurtful events trigger physical reactions or discomfort?
If remembering hurtful situations results in physical symptoms, then unforgiven issues most likely remain lodged in the heart and spirit. 3. Does the painful experience bring to mind anything for which God can be praised? We often deliver misdirected blame towards God when we think what happened to us was unfair. We need to be honest by confessing to God our anger against Him. Of course God is not guilty of anything, and He is not in need of forgiveness. Our anger and unforgiveness are our own. When unforgiveness is lodged in the heart, it is difficult to see any way God may be using the situation to bring blessing or to write wisdom to us. Afterwards, when we have achieved forgiveness, we can verbalize lessons learned and thank God for bringing us through painful experiences with a positive outcome. The importance of forgiving ourselves. We characteristically have the most difficulty with others when our relationship with them triggers issues for which we have not forgiven ourselves.
