Does anyone feel exhausted about socializing?
Well, in your situation it could be a lot of things. You could either have really high standards/be picky and think they’re “wrong people” for relatively silly reasons. It’s hard to know because you don’t give examples of some of these people. It could be how most “friends” really aren’t true friends. Personally, most people I’ve met and been friends with or tried to be friends with, while I wouldn’t say they’re bad people, were not worthwhile people or people who know how to be good friends. I find socializing exhausting and difficult just because I’m not naturally a socializer, it takes a lot of effort to build friendships with most people, and also because I have grown to have a gift for discerning when someone is “my kind of person” or not pretty quickly after meeting them. All of my friends right now are people whom really get on my nerves in some ways, but I’m not about to dump them because of this. Like I was suggesting before, it depends on what the issues turn out to be with s
I feel the same way, sometimes I’d rather just be home alone, haha. I really have no idea how to make good friends, I’m not that great at it. I guess don’t try as hard and if they stick around and you don’t get bugged with them, it is BFF! 😀 Maybe hang out in places you like a lot (like the downtown library for me) and sooner or later you’ll see the same people over and over, and since you share interests that might overrule the thing you don’t like? I’m really no good at it either.
Noone is all good or all bad – everyone is going to have qualities about them that you don’t like. You can’t cut someone out of your life because of one aspect of their personality. Its up to you to make the decision if the issue is a deal breaker or not. For example, clearly you are a judgmental person – how would you feel if people wouldn’t be friends with you because of it? It doesn’t make you a bad person, but part of life is taking the good with the bad.
