Do women feel “boys” will become “men” when they become married?
If a male is not yet mature, a marriage license is not going to magically make him so. I’ve met men who are mature at 18 years old, and I’ve met men in their 50s who still have the mentality of teenagers. (I have a 52-year-old cousin who still gets drunk and totals cars, lives with his father and can’t hold down a job.) I think what makes a man is more a matter of taking responsibility for himself, playing to his strengths and recognizing his weaknesses, not blaming others for his misfortunes and respecting others. Some men wouldn’t make good husbands and fathers and recognize that fact, so they don’t get married…which is the mature thing to do.
Good morning! I feel like these days everyone wants boys to be “men” but then women put them down all the time and act like they’re stupid. (In most TV shows these days women are shown as the smart ones who tell their stupid men what to do.) I think a real man is someone who is honest and has integrity — regardless of whether he’s married or not.
Not at all. Boys become men when they do reach a certain level of financial responsibility, emotional stablility, but most of all when they recognize what they want and live in that direction. Just as a woman does not need a man to complete her, neither does a man need a woman to complete him. In a relationship sense, I’ve found that boys become men when they stop playing the stupid little high school games (whatever they are) and decide what they want from a relationship. I was engaged to a man who had a child from a previous marraige and was financially wealthy, but he was a child emotionally. At first it was endearing but luckily before I married him I’m glad I realized he just needed to grow up!
