Do tensions like this occur pretty often between two types of people?
As for me: 1.) I sense some tension. Often, people who have or want children think that people who don’t want kids look down on them or think they’ve wasted their life or haven’t had quality experiences. 2.) Nah, I don’t think so. I’m 23 with no desire to have kids now (or in the future!) and ppl haven’t hated me for it. 3.) Hmm…well, I’m 23. Although myself and a couple other females I know don’t want kids, the majority of females I know plan on procreating. P.S.–>I hate it when people say, “Oh, you’re too young to decide,” or, “Just wait. You’ll change your mind.” It used to scare me ‘cuz I thought, “What if they’re right?”. But it doesn’t scare me anymore. As I get older, I’m getting to know myself and my wants even better…….which means my aversion to having children is even stronger. It also helps to read stories of people in their 40s and older who made the decision early on not to procreate, stuck with it, and are happy with the decision (although they do wonder what life
I think that deliberatley childless coupls certainly will live a very different life, and therefore it will exacerbate any tensions that may already exist about ‘selfishness’ (from both sides!) etc. Personally I think that everyone who does not want to have children should be supported in that choice. Far too many people have children when they shouldn’t have had, and I have heard a number of people say they didn’t really want children, or wouldn’t have had them if they had their time again. These people do not necessarily make bad parents, but I think that it is terrible that anyone has a child because they feel that they should. Good luck finding the right woman!
1) There can be tension but most people respect others’ personal decisions. 2) Absolutely not. There are a lot of people who love children very much but can’t have them or have decided to pursue other goals. 3) I don’t think so. 4) I don’t know how old you are but many young women are spoken to by friends and family as if motherhood is inevitable. People say things like, “When you’re a mother… ” or “When you have kids…” , without ever asking if that’s the young woman’s plan. That can have a big influence on people’s decisions. 5) It could really go either way. I swore when I was younger that I’d never be married or be a parent. Now I’m happily both. But I certainly can’t generalize my experience to everyone. There are many women who will tell you they do not want children and they will not have them. Everyone is different.
1. I haven’t seen much tension between these types of people. There are a few in each group that are self serving and believe all people should be like themselves, but in general most are pretty understanding of one another. 2. I do not think childfree people hate children or those who want children. I think they simply do not want their own for various reasons. 3. I think most people with children simply see those who have chosen not to have children as people who have made a choice to not have children. 4. I do not know if girls around your age want children, because I do not know your age. However, I do think there are women in all age bracket who do not want children. 5. I think some young people who want to be childfree change their minds, but I do not think all do. I think it is better for someone to choose to be childfree and then change their minds rather than someone to have children and regret them. P.S. I have wanted children all my life and still do. I want the best for the
