Do some women invite domestic violence?
Your brother is a special scenario. Most women do not choose to have these abusive situations. It is reported that most men that are abusive, don’t show the abuse until after they have the person in a live in situation. Usually there is more than just physical. Most of these men are able to blind society with kindness while putting their wives down. These wives will often see their men being treated like kings and because the man has emotionally abused them- they will feel that maybe they deserve the treatment they get. It takes a third party to provide help to the women whom have been brought so low down. NO women ever deserves to be slapped around. The same goes for men.
IMO, violence as a response is inappropriate unless you’re defending yourself from further harm. Violence begets more violence, almost every time. It teaches any kids around that the biggest person, or the person most willing to hurt others, deserves to be in change. No, the girlfriend should not have stuck your brother with a steak knife, obviously. But him striking her back was not the right response, no matter how outraged. He had other options, the first one being to get up and go to the hospital and/or the police. Not everyone will agree she needed a slap for her actions. I think she needed an arrest. As for looking at another man, that most certainly doesn’t justify physical violence. You sound like a man who’s so unsure of his basic worth that it seems right to you to make women fear you rather than love you. Enjoy the fruits of that, including the steak knives.
You’d be surprised how many women start it. In many cases the man was just defending himself. The police, unfortunatly, naturally assume the guy assaulted the woman first. Unless the guy says nothing or the police don’t find evidence indicating otherwise the woman goes unpunished. Many men say nothing because of false male pride. I know of a case that went on for years, and the guy had built up quite a rap sheet, where everyone felt so sorry for the “little woman”. Turned out, after she finally killed him, that she had been bashing him ever since their wedding nite. No wonder she never left him, she was the abuser. Male pride again.
