Did I Do Things The Right Way – Within The Confines Of An Unhappy/Abusive Marriage?
You need to be true to yourself and honest with yourself. It sound to be that you are not happy and the way he treats you is wrong. Not to mention the way his family treats you. You need to move on and leave. You just have to know that you are strong enough to deal with this. Things are just going to get worse if you do not leave now. He has belittled you enough and you are beginning to feel that you cannot do it on your own and you are not worth it, but you are and so much more. Make the move and do not look back. Mistakes are made and it is better to take care of it now before they get worse.
IF he becomes abusive against you in any way, you can ALWAYS call the police, take out a restraining order against him, & he w/NOT be allowed to go anywhere near you, would NOT even be able to correspond w/you. IF he does or tries to, call the police & let them handle it. You ALWAYS have the choice of having the law stand behind you when it comes to domestic violence. Cops have NO TIME for domestic violence in any way shape or form. So, you DO KNOW you have an “out” w/this situation. Do NOT accept the unacceptable w/him in any way. I’d strongly suggest you get a restraining order against him & KNOW you’ll be OK at all times. It sure can’t hurt, & you’ll KNOW you’re safe.
Oh, Holly. It’s not about what you did wrong or what you did right honey. You don’t deserve this and you need to find a way to get out of it and to make sure that you are safe. Maybe contact Womans Aid and they can put you into a Safe House and he will never know where you are but you would have to stop seeing your family for a quite a while so that he can’t follow you back to the safe house. Just give them a call if you don’t feel ready to go and see them. Long shot, but if you stay in Edinburgh, womans aid is in Dalkeith, babe. I was in a similar situation to you about 11 years ago now. I had been thinking about leaving for months but never had the strength. I woke up one Monday morning, called in sick to my work, packed my bags, left him a note and i have never looked back. I hope that one day soon you will do the same honey and like me you will never look back either. If you ever want to someone to listen or just some advice please email me babe.
