Did i do the right thing breaking off my engagement?
As much as it hurts you now and him. If you know 100% that you can’t see being with him forever, then you did the right thing. It’s better now than right before the wedding, or 6 months later. It might seem “selfish” to others, but I think you are doing yourself and him a service by being honest now. In the end he will find someone who can give him 110% of their love and not have any regrets or wonder if it’s going to work. The hurt and pain will go away. Be prepared for negative criticsm, but be strong and try to explain to your son what has happened.
You did the right thing. It is devastating for both of you but you can’t go around pretending everything is fine when it’s not. You would end up hating each other if you didn’t break it off. Write him a letter to explain your reasons, as he wont want to talk to you while he is hurting the way he is. Let him know that you love him dearly but not in the way that you had hoped and it wouldn’t have been fair to stay with such a good man who deserves better. He may be blaming himself that he did something wrong that caused the break up. But more than likely, I think you are going to find him being so angry with you, that you may never see him again. I also think in years to come when your situation is different to now, you may regret that this ever happened, especially if you find yourself alone as you never found that right man to share old age with. But hindsight is always wonderful.
Wendy, you followed your heart, so you did the right thing. I was in a similar relationship with a guy who was kind, courteous, respectful, he had a great job, wonderful friends, a great family, he was so good to me, we vacationed, dined out and he worshiped me. I loved him dearly; however when he asked me to marry him, I simply could not go through with even the engagement because the passion was missing. It killed me to hurt him like that, but I was not in it for the long term and never imagined he would ask me to marry him. And, no, I did not use him. I had great times with him, we got along fantastically. But I saw no lifetime for myself without passion and a deeper sense of love, so I just had to let him go. I actually considered accepting his proposal, but in the end, I had to be true to myself and end the relationship before it went any further. I miss him, still. I lost my best friend that day.
