Can I just get a pelvic exam over the phone?
I find asking health/mental health professionals you already trust for referrals helpful. That’s how I found the OBGYN I’ve been so happy with. It’s also how I found a pulmonologist I was happy with. And a foot doctor, when I needed one, as well. My working theory is that people who are good tend to know who’s good. Polling the office for who likes their doctor has not worked nearly as well. If you made it through that kind of abuse, you much have developed some ability to dis-sociate just to stay sane. Now would be a good time to put it to positive use. This person is not attacking you, not out to get you or use you, and not, at least in theory, doing anything that you do not approve of. S/he is a doctor, checking the plumbing. It requires some level of discomfort, in an area that most people to not have permission to handle. But you are going to give that permission, and they are going to use that permission respectfully, while you do your best to think about other things. Also, at *
