Can the husbands who abuses his wife change and how can a wife change her husband?
I am not going to comment on whether an abuser can change or not; I’ve seen it go both ways. But I do know for sure, YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM! YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOU! Change your attitude about what you want and don’t want. Figure out what you want out of life. Make a list of what you don’t like about you. When we think we can change someone else, we don’t like what we see in ourselves, so we try to take control by trying to change someone else. Even if you have a good reason to want to change him, YOU CAN’T! and shouldn’t even if you could. His life is his responsibility, not yours. YOUR LIFE is the only one you have to answer to God for. Now if kids are involved, that is a little different.
Hypothetically the husband could change. But statistics show that a very few ever do and that is only after very extensive counseling. A wife cannot change her husband. No one can change anyone else. It is an illusion that people create believing they can control others. An abusive husband tries to control his wife with fear, but if you try and control him with sweetness it won’t work any better.
a wife cannot change her husband unless the husband wants to change himself…this is a common misconception…people think that they can change their partners once they are married….because if a person doesn’t want to change…he may change for a few days but will always go back to the way he was before…changes should come from within… you don’t have to stay in an abusive relationship…no one deserves to be abused…you have the choice to leave him…you will find someone who will love you and treat you well…
Firstly a woman/wife can not change the husband/partner he has to recognise he has a problem and want to change.for himself……Usually this is fuelled by alcohol or if a misogynist then by personality….Both need counselling to identify why the partner abuses and for why the woman allows it……Women in this situation usually have low self esteem due to the verbal abuse and as women do ultimately lay the blame on them selves…..The male is usually fuelled by jealousy and unreasonable behaviour….this can happen with women as well though…….If the partner is willing to work through these issues then this can be addressed if a misogynist then my advice is get out NOW this quickly escalates to a very dangerous situation…… Comment from above ….Some women stay for the children’s sake and this leads to all sorts of issues……If children involved then it is even more important to resolve as you need to think about the messages given to daughters and sons about acceptable beha
A wife cannot change her husband. She can point things out to him to try to help him look at things differently – but that is his choice. Only Jesus can change a person and he will only do it if the person wants. A person must want to change, God gave all of us free will so it is up to us to decide. An abusive man can change if he wants to. He must first realize that he NEEDS to change, after that he must really WANT to change, then he must HATE the way he is, then he must SEEK out some help realizing that he can’t do it alone. With God all things are possible. The change can come by therapy or by the hand of God, both can work.
