Can someone explain to me the psychology of how being too nice can make you lose in relationships?
It could be the type of girl you go after. Dont put the blame on yourself of being too nice. The girls that dont want a super nice guy are usually the power ladies who excel in everything and certainly dont want a guy they dont have to fight for. No challenge! And sometimes they are the personality type which is considered “Narcissistic”. That in extreme cases can be a disorder. Stay away from them, you’ll never win! Always be yourself. If you are not winning with ladies who say you are too nice, then they are not the right lady for you. It should all happen naturally.
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/n… Lots more reading here: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/n… And an extract: All too often we hear self-professed “Nice Guys” complaining about why they can’t get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships. Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist on laying blame and asserting that women don’t want them because they are too “Nice”. These people who call themselves “Nice Guys” can’t see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion,
As a professional pick-up artist I have been asked this question 1000 times. When a girl says that you’re too nice it means that she doesn’t feel that sense of attraction, what you have to remember is that women work differently to men, where a guy goes primarily on looks (you can deny it, but its evolutionarily true) where as women go on personality. The thing is when you’re too nice it’s similar to you saying to her, I’m insecure so I’m going to show you how great I am to win you. This makes her the prize and you’re no longer a challenge. I’m not saying be an a**e, but don’t be such a wuss make yourself the prize, and treat her as an equal instead of putting her on some high pedestal and treating her like a Goddess, if you wouldn’t do something for a male friend don’t do it for her. And my final piece of advice would be to look up David DeAngelo.
