Can I forgive one night stands during a break up?
You failed to mention your behavior while you were apart. I would say that when you break up with someone you have to accept the fact that they have the right to be with other people. You see answers here all the time where people say to get on with your life. Now that you are back together, you will have to force yourself to forgive and forget what went on while things were over. The best way is to not think about it, not talk about it, and do your best to forget it. With practice you can do it, and you should or it will ruin the relationship. I think if she wanted to live a wild life or be with someone else she would have not gotten back with you, so keep the fact that she chose to be with you at the front of your mind when you start having doubts. We are all human, we all make mistakes, but you kill love in a relationship if you hold those mistakes over someones head.
Im afraid what either one of you did while you were not together is irrelevant. She hasnt done anything wrong and sorry but you shouldnt need to forgive her! I know its hard and it doesnt feel that way but at the end of the day it sounds like you broke up with her not the other way around. She was probably just having a bit of a rebound and feeling emotionally low. Having a nice guy take an interest in you when you are so down from a break up is something that really gives you a confidence and ego boost and sometimes that is what is needed. I think you just need to understand that perhaps she just wanted to feel loved again and most of all that she does not need your forgiveness as she did nothing wrong. Please dont forget that it might hurt you that she slept with someone else but you werent together so she was free to sleep with whoever she wanted – as were you! You may find she regrets it and knows now that it may not have been a great idea but it happened so best thing to do it try
