Can he feel like he is dying with such a low blood count?
Blood tests measure viral burdens, not emotional burdens. It’s best to validate his feelings regardless of his lab results. He may be crying out for attention by saying these things and showing his concern with the kids using his drinking glasses. This is how he has chosen to communicate his feeings. All you can do is make it safe for him to talk more about it whenever he is ready. You can also help him see his need to talk to a counselor or other recently diagnosed heterosexuals living with a negative partner, for example through a support group or AIDS service organization. Any info would be greatly appreciated See the California Partner’s Study II for information on how couples in your situation cope. Hope this helps.
