Can a platonic relationship between men and women really ever exist?
I had a purely platonic relationship with a man for years, and it was perfect until turned out that it was platonic only on my side. One day he literary knocked on my door and proposed. I knew him since we both were 8. We were at the same class since elementary school, went to the same swim team, then were at the same program at college, our fathers were friends, so I honestly treated him like a brother. Well, it turned out he had a different perspective. After that case I don’t believe in platonic relationship. At least one of the two will want sex. Or both want it, but withhold for some reasons. So they can exist in a sense that for some reason sex doesn’t happen. And it can be pretty stable long-term relationship, lasting more than marriages, and being very strong. But I think they are sexless for some reason: one of the two doesn’t want sex, or they are married, or both are too shy to show their affections and they keep dating other people when they really want to be a couple, or s
YES, men and women can just be FRIENDS with no romantic interest in each other. I hate when people ask this question, it’s crazy. Just because you’re a girl and he’s a guy does not mean one of you is guaranteed to be attracted to one another. It’s kind of arrogant to think so. And I do think that a mixed gender relationship can have stronger love than two lovers. Friendship is just something so solid, something that doesn’t have the same oppurtunity for pain that romance does.
I think it depends on the people’s personalities. I think really sexual straight men and women have trouble being friends without getting physical or romantic. But I think that people who are less sexual or less sexy (not as a bad thing.. they could be very beautiful but just not oozing sex) can find friendship with people of the opposite sex. But yes, a platonic relationship between men and women can exist, but I think it is easiest when both or either party is gay, since that way a romance really won’t develop between the two. However, I feel that in my own experience, the men I want to be around are men that I find attractive. And maybe consequently, with most of the men i’ve been friends with (I’m only 21, though), a mutual attraction has developed… I do think that a platonic love in a mixed gender relationship can be stronger than the love between two lovers, but I also think that that kind of relationship usually dies, and sometimes it ends quite dramatically or badly. I think
