Can a marriage be sustained without healthy intimacy?
A marriage may survive without healthy physical intimacy, but it won’t thrive, which is why it is extremely important to continue marriage counselling. You may not yet feel you are ready to discuss this problem, but faking affection you don’t feel will not solve your problems, it will only complicate them, so discussing how you’re feeling with him is necessary. Begin by telling him how glad you are to finally be at a place where you feel your marriage can be rebuilt and that you appreciate all of his hard work over the past few months. Be positive and make it clear that sex is an area where YOU are struggling, and that this is not about his attractiveness (even if it is right now–you need him on board and supportive, not defensive and hurt). Be sure he understands that this is something you want to fix with his help and the help of a professional. Finally, ask him to be patient with you while you work through this because it isn’t a problem that’s likely to go away overnight. Also kee
