Are there major inconsistencies between feelings, content, and body posture?
7. What does the person want to do versus what she feels she should do? 1. Exactly what is the problem? (Please be very specific) Almost all problems that are presented as general turn out to be specific issues. For example, a student saying “I feel out of place here” might in fact mean “I don’t understand what the family expects of me.” To draw out additional information, you might employ the techniques of open inquiry and/or minimal encouragement. A student’s choice of words in English often does not accurately describe his or her feelings. Words such as “lonely,” “depressed,” and “scared” have an enormous range of meanings, so it is important to find out exactly what they mean to the other person. As an example, you might ask, “Exactly what does it feel like to you when you are lonely?” or “Loneliness means one thing to me, but I’m not sure it means the same thing to you. Could you describe how you feel when you are lonely and how it’s affecting your life?” 2. When does it occur? Ho
