ARE THERE LEGITIMATE REASONS FOR AN EMOTIONAL TRADE-OFF IN A DIVORCE?
If the statistics are correct, fifty percent of adults who have been married have been divorced, are getting divorced, or will be divorced. The odds are, therefore, that at this very moment many of you know someone who is in the process or soon will be in the process of divorcing, or you yourself may be facing or contemplating that possibility. Whichever the case may be, you can help yourself, your family member, or your friend, by embracing or encouraging them to embrace the goal of putting together the best post-divorce family possible. The following article is one of many I hope to post on this site that will address different divorce-related issues and provide information, strategies, and guidance for achieving a “good” divorce. This article addresses the potential for an emotional trade-off that may arise in the negotiations and when it may be appropriate. In my many years as a divorce mediator, I have often squirmed uncomfortably because of the agreement that was developing betwe
