Are Single Black Women too Independent?
By Sonya Triggs My answer to this might surprise you – I think, in many ways, black women are too independent, but with good reason. To understand this dichotomy, you have to understand something about most single black women. Most single black women have a history of supporting themselves, holding down a job (or two), possibly raising children, attending school, taking care of household bills (probably with a house of their own) and helping out with other family responsibilities involving parents, grandparents and siblings. In many cases they have handled these responsibilities without a strong or consistent male influence in their lives. Through miscommunication, death, neglect or abuse, many father-daughter, sister-brother, boyfriend-girlfriend relationships have gone astray. Oftentimes, this left women to form a support network among themselves in order to get things done, bring order to their lives, and accomplish those tasks that were once upon a time more evenly split between th
