Are left hand ring finger rings a for sure sign of being in a relationship?
The responses in this thread totally baffled me. I thought about them all the way to work, on the subway. And there I discovered more evidence for the “left hand is the wedding hand” custom- men wearing wedding rings. I’ve heard of women wearing non-relationship related rings on their left hand (at least, I have now!!!), but never men. For the custom to change, and people to not automatically assume the left hand ring finger means you’re married/takenw (which they DO, I’m sorry), I think single men would have to start wearing decorative rings there, too, which I’ve never heard of happening. I’ve heard of married men taking rings off, but not the other way around…
. But here we have a guy asking if every single woman who wears a ring on her left ring finger is married/engaged/attached, and for that question, the answer is obviously no. Actually, if you read the question he’s wondering if he should be deterred. Most men would be deterred by a signal that means that failure is about 10x more likely than in other situations.
Oh me too. I’m just interested to learn if it’s a widespread phenomenon that it does. Okay, I also disagree that it does send that message, and that is in part because I have not received that sort of reaction (plenty of guys have hit on me while I have been wearing random rings on my left ring finger). However, I do think your average man is not as astute as your average woman when it comes to the subtle messages sent by clothing/accessories, and so I could believe that a number of men would not understand those subtleties, even though I haven’t experienced that in practice.
yeah, I never thought about that either – I don’t really wear rings these days, but when I was in college I used too wear lots of those silver & onyx or lapis type st. mark’s crap, and I just wore them wherever they fit, so undoubtedly sometimes on the left ring finger… I mean, it’s even called the ring finger; never thought about it being reserved only for a certain kind of ring. Anyway, in college I’d certainly never have gone out with some random guy who approached me in a bar/cafe etc since I met everyone through school & friends and the general scene I hung out in, so it’s kinda a moot point. Just thought I’d confirm there are social ‘illiterates’ like me out there, at least in places like NYC.
