Are left hand ring finger rings a for sure sign of being in a relationship?
The first thing many guys do is look for a ring on the left hand. If the only ring she has is there, then we walk away. – blue_beetle I don’t often think about my engagement ring because it’s just part of me now, but men regularly comment on it, even though it’s very subdued. Older men especially. They’ll say “he’s a very lucky man” or “family ring?” or something to that effect. It’s obviously fishing for a clear “can I hit on you or not” message. Men my own age (early 20’s) notice it less than men that are of an age more likely to be married/engaged/looking for something serious. I’ve been surprised how many men DO notice, because I had assumed, like Amizu, that they were “not as astute as your average woman when it comes to the subtle messages sent by clothing/accessories”. But my experience wearing this (fairly traditional) engagement ring is that men do notice. As a woman who wears a ring on that finger, I think ROU_Xenophobe has good advice:So long as you approach courteously, don
I do think your average man is not as astute as your average woman when it comes to the subtle messages sent by clothing/accessories… As a man (who is actually more interested in clothing/accesories than most men) I would say that it’s a matter of indifference, not lack of astuteness. We are, however, pretty interested in the science of understanding female signs of interest in, and availability to, us. The fact that there is so much ambiguity even within that field leads a lot of guys to hold in mind the old standbys, such as a ring on the ring finger of the left hand. If I see that, generally speaking, I assume that it’s a sign of marriage or engagement, whether it’s being sent by someone who’s actually married or engaged, or someone who just wants to seem like they are. Not being a complete idiot, I’m well aware that the woman in question may simply share occhiblue’s attitude on this subject, but that’s okay, because if my willingness to take the ring custom seriously is really th
I’m with naxosaxur. My girlfriend wears a ring when she teaches classes, to keep guys from hitting on her. It’s a nearly universal custom in the US, and everybody recognizes it. Now watch as I attempt to out-offend naxosaxur: Wearing a ring on your left ring finger because it “feels better there” is like wearing a swastika because it’s “an ancient symbol of luck.” You could argue your point, but it’s completely disingenuous to pretend you’re not sending a signal. And btw, I find it hilarious that someone would wear a ring with the intent of only attracting guys not bound by “tradition-based assumptions.” I’m sure it works great, as long as the “tradition-basad assumption” you’re talking about is the one regarding marital fidelity…
