Are biological mothers the bane of a stepmom’s existence?
Some of these women manage to develop a really good relationship, or at least a workable relationship, but I would say they are in the minority. Generally, the two women are sort of set poles apart and it’s a real shame that we don’t have anything in society that encourages this relationship. You feel that if you could just get them to talk, it might actually make things easier. What about mothers who use the children to sabotage the stepfamily? If one adult is trying to put the children in the middle, then you really must try not to join in the game because the children are going to feel really pulled apart. You’ve just got to stay on the moral high ground and hope things will improve. Should the stepmother and father set their own house rules? Yes, I would say so. No one can expect to control the children when they’re not in their own house. The children can have different rules with their mother and that’s okay. What’s the best way for a stepmother to define her role? The best way i
