are all men looking for damsels in distress?
Forktine has a good percentage of it, especially with the “relax your guard” message. The rest, from my POV, has a lot to do with that — relaxing. If you’re relaxed, it’s fine. If you start out the date by not letting the guy open the car door for you (you can do it yourself, after all!) and scoffing or making fun of him when he holds the door for you, both of you are going to spend the entire meal dreading the showdown over the check when it comes. This isn’t the way to start anything or lead anything. Yes, we know you can fix your own flat. (Hell, my sister’s boyfriend didn’t know how to change a tire — at thirty-seven years old!!! My dad showed him how so that he could do it sometime if he was caught alone.) We know you can pay for your own meal. But as guys, we want to show you it’s a special occasion, and you’re special to us, and the way we may do this is to grab the check. You can do it some other time. We’ll let you. Just not this time. Don’t fight us, just smile and say than
