Am i justified in wanting to leave my wife?
I can see that you are confused at the moment, and i can understand why. I think that you were very brave to forgive your wife, not just once, but several times, but it sounds like the relationship is very strong and supportive in many ways. If you found out that your wife didn’t want you to go into the buisness until afterwards, it sounds like communication between you has broken down. I would strongly suggest that you look at the possibility of relationship counselling, maybe with an organisation like Relate. They will be able to talk to you both, to help you talk to each other, and to help you both understand how each other feels. You loved your wife enough to marry her, even after she had had an affair, try to remember what it was that you loved back then, and do what you can to try and recapture the romance of that time. Don’t go down the route of having an affair unless you are TOTALLY sure your marriage is over, and don’t forget about the girls in this – they have already lost o
Perhaps your wife has started to feel your waning of love towards her, and this is why she wants to have your wedding vows renewed. I have always held the view that you only renew something when it is broken or obsolete. I took my wedding vows 25 years ago, and they are as real to me today as they were then, and will, in my mind, never need “renewing”. Whether you leave her or not, is entirely your choice, and I can only say that had my husband done that to me, I would certainly have left after the first time, not the second! You leaving her should not be based on whether you will be seen as a bad person or not, and should also not be based on the very powerful kisses you shared with the other lady, but on the fact that you feel you would be happier away from her. I am sorry to say that I would not believe that she is not still having a relationship other than friendship with this other guy! The final decision does rest with only you, but my opinion is that you should leave as soon as
