Am I being cynical? How long does monogamy even LAST in most relationships?
And it still sticks with me to this day. I was young and very idealistic about relationships, sex and romance and this older and wiser person told me “no single person can ever be expected to fill every need that you will have in your life.” At the time, I imagine I felt something like you do now. What could she have meant? It all sounded so cynical, almost resigned to a life that included some infidelity. But as I look back on it, I believe she was right and let me tell you why I think this. If you are an outgoing, healthy, fun person with lots of varied interests (which I would like to think I am), you are not going to ultimately be happy with a couch potato who never wants to go anywhere, meet anyone, or learn anything new. Life is to be lived, enjoyed and experienced, and I don’t believe you can do this by living your life in a cocoon with another person. And so, each person has their own interests–obviously it helps if at least some of them are shared. For me, the ideal is having
