Why do people regress?
It is commonly understood in psychology that in the above situation and others like it, a few things are happening in a very short amount of time: • we get triggered by a person or event • we leave the front part of our brain and the hind brain takes over, thus rational thinking (front brain) goes out the window. • We have now regressed to a childhood a time where a similar event happened when we were a little boy • We are now in a survival response and we do one of four things to “survive” the situation: Fight–Act out or fight back with verbal or physical aggression Flight–Run away, go away mentally or dissociate Freeze–Shut down or hide so it doesn’t happen to us again Submit–Give up and collapse becoming depressed In addition to your “in the moment” reaction is how it ties into past situations where a similar thing happened. You now “couple” it with other times where you were rejected. This is why it can feel so overwhelming at times. But since most boys never learned how to work wi
