My girlfriends daughter is a totally spoiled brat, how do I handle it?
I commend you for wanting to better the situation and stick by your girlfriend, rather than just walking away. I think you walk a fine line when trying to talk to her about her daughter, because you want to be careful not to offend or upset her. I’m not sure how old the child is, but I think the first step would be to make sure you’ve bonded with the child. Offer for the 3 of you to go to the park, go out to eat, or some sort of outing together so that you can see the parenting techniques she uses when her daughter misbehaves. You also want to note whether the bad behaviors occur just while you’re out in public, or at home as well. A way that you might approach the topic is to find a parenting class (usually offered for free in communities) and suggest that you go to it together so that you will know what to do, and it could help give her tips as well. You can also try different behavior management systems, such as rewarding with stickers, small toys, etc…when the child does somethin
Just deal with it, she had the daughter when you got with her and she will have the daughter if you leave so you are just going to have to deal with it. It is your girlfriends responsibility to discipline her and teach her right from wrong. I know my boys can be brats and my boyfriend and I just brokeup but when we were together he understood (he had 5 of his own so he was use to it) that sometimes they just act that way and you can’t cross over that line of not being the parent. My exhusband is now moving in with his pregnant girlfriend and her daughter is HORRIBLE but I just tell him, you knew what you were getting into when you got with her so now you just have to deal with it. Tell the girl no if you have to and make sure to always talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling. Your girflriend needs to make sure she is atleast trying to correct the problem. How old is the daughter?
She is probably having trouble herself adjusting to a new man in her life,,try and let her know that you are not there to replace her father,but that you love her mum very much and that you have no intention of leaving be firm but fair children dont see the world as adults do,,you may see spoilt brat but in reality she is hurt and confused by the new addition in her home and life,,being a step parent is rarely easy but it will work out through time you and mum could try including her in some of the decision making that way she will more involved in whats happening to her life i know it isnt easy for you or her mum either but for the moment you have to understand that she is the child and you are the adults and it is going to be down to you both to make her feel safe happy and secure having a man around hope this helps and good luck
she is 6y old and you saying such things about her wow, did ever think your the person who invaded her space, came into her home and took the attention of her mother away and right now she finding it very very hard to come to terms with you living there. she has feelings too and she jealous not spoilt, she trying to compete with you, your her Competition so instead calling her spoilt brat think of her as wee 6y old scared and thinking her mummy do not love her any more as she brought you into her home to live now, taking away that extra special time she has with her mum! try be more understanding as she finding it very hard too, give her time alone with her mum and sit her down explain how not there to take her mum away but there to love and support both of them – as once take on a single mum you take on that child too – so must show that child she wanted and loved too, try doing fun things, like the park, walks on the beach, cinema, swimming, zoo or deciding to do up her bedroom in Sp
