Can a Guy Be Too Nice To a Woman?
Mike, newly divorced and getting out into the dating scene, made this remark: “I’ve learned not to be too nice to women. For instance, if I see a woman’s profile on Match.com and I send her a disparaging remark, I get a response, usually something like ‘You just need to get to know me better.’ If I’m too nice, women don’t respond.” Unfortunately, there is a grain of truth in Mike’s contention. I’ve heard countless times from really wonderful men that they get feedback from women telling them they are too nice. What a sad statement about today’s dating scene. The question is: can a guy be too nice? The answer is, it depends on what you mean by “too nice.” If being too nice means showering a woman with attention who clearly doesn’t want it from you, then yes, that’s too nice. If being too nice means being a doormat to a woman who completely takes you for granted, yes that’s too nice. If too nice means needy and desperate, that clearly doesn’t work. If being nice means being a gentleman –
