Don children need their fathers?
Fathers are incredibly important for children’s emotional growth but when fathers choose to launch violence at their children, the role they play is not a healthy one. Anyone can change their bad behavior once they acknowledge that they have a problem. Unfortunately, many batterers do not recognize that they have a problem. They blame the world for their behavior. Your children do not need an adult in their lives that is going to breakdown and destroy their self-worth and esteem. Utilize other neutral male adults (not partners) to give your children access to men who can role model more appropriately. Unwittingly, mothers will tell their children that their father loves them. This is kind but damaging. Batterers are normally incapable of loving others. That’s why it doesn’t bother them to hurt their family. You confuse your children by sending them the mix message that their dad loves them. “I know he hit you but he is your father and he loves you.” They understand that their dad doesn
